Be Judgement Free

There are no coincidences or accidents in life – Your life is unfolding according to design. 

The highly interactive design has been developed by you to produce the greatest opportunity for growth and self-actualization.  Those defining moments in your life, the ones that hopefully ignited some self-contemplation, were there for a reason, strategically placed to wake you up.

That is not to say that you do not have free will to re-chart your life’s course at any time, but there exists a blueprint for your life.

Our personality imperfections are really themes within our lives that remain with us until they have been identified, understood, explored and conquered.  This process may take several hundred lifetimes and usually does. 

We are not alone on these journeys of self-discovery and growth, we enlist the help of many people before we get here as beneficiaries of our growth and in turn we are beneficiaries of those that are within our sphere of influence.  You chose your mother and father for a reason…and your brother and sister.  The tumultuous relationship that you might have experienced or do experience with your mother or father or brother or sister was/is meant to awaken you and offer you an opportunity for growth.  The abuse you might have suffered at the hands of others is not coincidental or accidental, but rather planned for your evolution as a catalyst that you had created for yourself to help awaken a new perspective. 

There is a beautiful design to your life. 

Your birth is calculated to the place, time and day of the event.  And the time, place and date of your birth reveal’s specific characteristics of your personality and can give insight into some of the themes that you have chosen for your adventure into this life.  Explore your horoscope to see the uncanny likeness to their descriptions.  The life you have chosen, with all of the ebbs and flows that you have created, were meant to be lived out in exactly the time, place and fashion you have lived them.  Wherever you are is providing you with all that you need to self-actualize and evolve.  Growing up in Michigan, moving to Ft. Lauderdale, Florida then to Dallas, Texas, to Michigan again Michigan and then to New York and back to Michigan has shaped my experiences and help mold the person that I am.

The world is exponentially more organized, synchronized, planned and premeditated than you could ever imagine. 

People that you pass on the street or drive next to or see at a concert have experiences that transcend this lifetime and have contracted, just like you, to evolve in a way that is the most significant and meaningful for them. 

We are the same, but different.  We have all developed very specific plans for our evolvement.  With that in mind – how can we ever fully understand another person’s blueprint: one that is made up of many lives, millions of experiences, thousands of relationships, hardships, pain, joy, suffering, bliss, confusion, religious structure and controls, and social and cultural expectations and those are only a few of the influences that are woven into the fabric of our makeup.

When we judge, we dilute the potency of who we are and what we are here to accomplish. 

Nothing is ever what it appears to be…and that is why judgement fails. We don’t possess the ability to “See” a person’s or even our own blueprint, that perspective is reserved for someone up there.  I can only tell you how many times I have judged a person or event in my life, to only to find out how wrong I was.

Here is how Tom Brady describes it:

There was an ancient Chinese farmer who had one of his horses run away. But one day later, the horse returned with 10 others. What started as an agricultural tragedy turned into a positive. The farmer now enjoyed an abundance of riches, thanks to his runaway horse. Later, the farmer’s son falls off one of the horses and breaks his leg. The community originally treats the boy’s injury as catastrophic, but then, Chinese rulers start drafting young boys to go off into war. The boy was unable to serve, because his leg was broken. The farmer’s neighbors change their outlook and begin to view the boy’s injury as a blessing. But the farmer, who always kept a level outlook, wouldn’t go there. He just said, “maybe.”

The mistake we often make is to prematurely judge events in our lives without giving them time to unfold to their intended outcome.  Just when you think that the event was placed in your life for a particular purpose, you find out that you experienced it for a very different reason. 

Here are some quotes I really like:

Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way, you judge others, you will be judged and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.


Judgments, value judgments concerning life, for or against, can in the last resort never be true: they possess value only as symptoms, they come into consideration only as symptoms – in themselves such judgments are stupidities

Friedrich Nietschze

We judge ourselves by what we feel capable of doing, while others judge us by what we have already done.

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

If you judge people, you have no time to love them.

Mother Theresa

We are all inclined to judge ourselves by our ideals, others by their acts.

Harold Nicolson

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